Why is it always about sex?

So what is it with men always wanting sex? Is a man’s sex drive simply uncontrollable? 

Well first of all not all men or women have an equal sex drive. In fact sex drive is quite an individual issue, although generally in men it’s known to be rather high. There are other factors which effect both males and females. Such as people who maintain a healthy lifestyle, exercise regularly and avoid the consumption of alcohol, cigarettes and drugs tend to have a higher sex drive than individuals who neglect their nutrition and health in general. There are many instances where a woman is actually more sexually driven than the man, however women somehow seem to be much more in control and most times would only have sex if they feel it’s appropriate or are totally infatuated. 

So is it always men who initiate sex? Perhaps not always but a good 90% of the time it is. Why? 

Sex is also a means of expression, one which men find extremely convenient. Whereas a woman might feel she’s connecting with her partner by laying in bed at night and talking about everything that occurred during the day a man would much rather just get down to business roll over and sleep. 

The problem is that most men have trouble expressing themselves verbally so often sex appears like the ideal substitute. Many times it’s simply the physical attraction which creates that sexual desire in a man, and it’s absolutely no reason for a woman to feel insulted.

Girls just want to have fun, or is it guys?

So what exactly was Cyndi Lauper thinking when she wrote the song? Is she right, do girls just want to have fun? Nothing else?!

Here’s what I believe…

A female up to the age of twenty-five is considered a girl, anything above and she’s a woman. Before they reach that age most girls try to exploit every minute of their life, why? Because eventually they want a change. They want to settle down with one man and raise a family. So at some point girls are willing to give up their fun for something they feel is more significant.

Most guys on the other hand never really want to give up anything. We refuse to mature and grow out of certain behavior. Did you ever ask yourself why so many married men go through a middle age crisis? They reach forty-five, buy a convertible and are suddenly seen each weekend at almost every nightclub in town. Well obviously they feel like they’ve missed out on their share of fun, right? So when do men draw a line and decide it’s time to change? 

It’s rather inconceivable how males never really change throughout the years. The truth may be guys just want to have fun and have difficulty accepting limitations in life.

Commitment, a man’s worst fear?

Unfortunately ladies... it’s true, one of men’s worst fears when it comes to romance is emotional commitment. These days it’s even more evident than in previous generations. It seems men now have more personal ambitions and that is why relationships often get pushed down the priority list. It’s a highly competitive world, and to be successful you need to put in some serious time and dedication.

We fear commitment because it suddenly feels like our freedom is about to fade away. A man needs to be independent and know he can make his own decisions in life. He also needs to have space to uphold his personal interests.

So does this mean guys just never want to be emotionally committed? Absolutely not. When the right woman shows up things can become very different. If the chemistry is there then it’s simply a matter of climbing up that priority list. A healthy relationship should never create sudden drastic changes in a man’s life.

Okay so what is the secret for a man to finally commit? Very simple…

You just have to allow him to make the decision.

What are men really looking for in a woman?

Are men so superficial that we only look at the physical side of a woman? What is it that makes a female appealing to the opposite sex?

No use denying that the physical attraction plays a big role; however I’ll tell you this, no matter how shallow a guy may be there are various ways to get his attention. No I’m not talking about getting breast implants or visiting the gym seven days a week for that matter. You don’t have go out wearing a skirt which is just two inches lower than your belt, or wear a bra which is three sizes too small either. Most men are actually revolted by a woman who is begging for attention by dressing up in an indecent manner. There is a distinction between sexy and vulgar.

A confident woman, enough to face up to a man she likes is probably more captivating than any other physical female attribute. The way a woman talks, her style, even her choice of wardrobe is something men don’t overlook. In the end what men really want is a true woman, sophisticated, vulnerable and capable of satisfying her man.